what do you as boys consider to be fat and would you date a "fat" girl

I'd say weight isn't as important as the BMI.

Like someone who is 5 foot tall who weighs for example, 9 stone, compared to someone who is 6 foot tall and weighing the same, then obviously there's a big difference.

It's always a good idea to check out your BMI once you've reached a certain age, when you'll understand it better, and not misuse it.

I'd say there's nothing wrong with weighing a bit more than the average person, and I actually wish I had a few more curves myself, but I wouldn't want to become "fat" as I've personally seen, and as a child, felt, the bad sides of it.

I've dated a fat girl... it was a bad experience, but that was a personality thing not a weight thing

LittleMissTrash wrote:

size 16+ is fat, in my eyes.
but i think curvy girl can be just as hot as super skinny girls
i have a crush on a size 16 girl currently <3
it's only when you're hitting size 25+++ when it's not cool anymore
because then all you can really do is drool by the tv O.O

but yeah... i think sizes 6 - 20 can be pretty danged sexy

Are you talking about English sizes or American sizes?

fat is cute depending on how well it is distributed in your body.

i weigh 170 sup'm i need to lose weight badly but u wont see me boycotting my beloved KFC. hehe

I always used to be a size 8 and would often talk to people who would agree how they thought anything above a 10 was too big.

I am sooo glad that I have grown up since then as it is shocking to think that we used to think that way.

I have gone up to a size 18 and am now back to a 12, and am so happy now. More happy than I ever was when I was a size 8 and I am sure my boyfriend is too now I have some proper lady shape to me.

I have gorgeous sexy friends who are size 14's and 16's but I do think it is hard to be an 18 and look great unless you spend good money on very well cut clothes made in the perfect way for your body shape.
I am not tall, so I would think that if someone was half a foot taller than me that a size 18 could also look fine and normal.

Edit: I have a friend who is a size 24, and it makes her miserable. She doesnt fit anything well and doesnt wear good clothes to fit her body shape which wouldnt be at all easy in the first place.
It pushes the guys away from her beacuse she puts up a really hard front to herself to make her seem stronger than she is and it just comes out as bitchynes.s which is the most unattractive thing a woman can have.

Last edited by moon85 (08-15-2008 21:49)

diddd ya know that some people that are overweight can actually be healthier than somebody that is slim?

someone who is thin can eat junk food but just in small portions so they're not getting the recommended 2000 cals a day (i think it's 2000, idk), so they don't gain weight from it (or they could also have high metabolisms). because it's unhealthy food they're eating although they're thin they could still have high cholesterol or something like that.

but then someone who is overweight can eat healthy stuff like salads but they add high calorie salad dressings or something and they eat large portions, eating more than the 2000cals so they end up gaining weight, but they're still healthy because they're not eating salty fatty foods

Last edited by jadeypants (08-16-2008 11:50)

jadeypants wrote:

diddd ya know that some people that are overweight can actually be healthier than somebody that is slim?

someone who is thin can eat junk food but just in small portions so they're not getting the recommended 2000 cals a day (i think it's 2000, idk), so they don't gain weight from it (or they could also have high metabolisms). because it's unhealthy food they're eating although they're thin they could still have high cholesterol or something like that.

but then someone who is overweight can eat healthy stuff like salads but they add high calorie salad dressings or something and they eat large portions, eating more than the 2000cals so they end up gaining weight, but they're still healthy because they're not eating salty fatty foods

Lol.  I'm laughing because that is RIDICULOUSLY true.  I think I'm fat, although other people don't agree; but that's not the point.  I wanted to comment on this post because I am a fat girl who eats very little, and when I do eat, I eat very healthy.  This brings me to another reason that some people are fat; genetics.  Every female in my family is fat.  No matter our eating or exercise habits, as soon as we hit puberty we blow up and stay that way for life.  The only female in my family who managed to lose weight only did so because she had AIDS.  Even though she ate like a pig, she was a twig.
    I can sometimes see why people don't think I'm fat though.  I have a great shape and look waaaaaaaaaaaaaay better than most people over 220 lbs. do.  Although, a lot of my weight comes from muscle, which is A LOT heavier than fat.  So even if I did lose most of my fat, I'd still end up somwhere between 165-180 lbs. and a size 10.

I dont really think it matters if people are fat!
It mores to do with the personality.
I've liked guys who a quite 'fat' but it hasnt bothered me because there personalities are so great.

Though i think girls think its different because if you are considered fat and like a guy but hes dating someone who is much thinner it can hurt and make things difficult for you.

Personally i dont know what i would call fat. Some teenage girls would say size 12 (uk) is fat. (maybe thats just the teenagers i know) and ive met 8 year olds who say they are fat. and every time ive met them, ive said to them, it doesnt matter how big you are, its your personality that matters.

I know this thread said to boys would you consider dating someone whos fat, but im just gonna say, it wouldnt bother me if i was dating a fat person, but i would only date them if i liked their personality

Ruppel wrote:

I'm only intrested in slim ladies. I think that most men (and, I expect, women) are not attracted by overweight people because it is a sign of unhealthiness.

I used to be very slim, but I've now got a little bit of a stomach from beer and curry and ageing. That said, I can understand why a lady wouldn't find that attractive.

If this is something that is bothering you then maybe look at healthier eating and excercise (don't starve yrself, annorexia is the ugliest)

But, I'm a lot older than you. When I was your age I was good looking, slim and tall. However, I was also spotty, punky, wearing braces, depressed and awkward. There were plenty of boys and girls very excited to take advantage of my shortcomings and bully me about those factors. There is no excuse for bullying. Cowards!

That's not true (the part where you said most women are not attracted to over weight people)
I'm very slim (5'4 and about 110 lbs) and I'm married to an overweight man who I love with all my heart!  I'd love for him to lose some weight, but not because I'm shallow but because of his diabetes.
I dated different types of men back in day and I came to realize that looks are not everything, there's no use of a pretty face that's empty on the inside.   

I wouldn't say that I'm fat (because I'm not) but i do have problems, its not about my fat its about my chest
I understand that people ave low self esteem because there fat but i have low self esteem bacause m chest is too big, even though i am not fat i feel like a fat person because of my chest, i get bullied because of, but i dont care its me and I'm it, i do not want to hang out with the cool people i wanne hang out with people who like me because of me not my chest (i found some friends okay)

I know this guy that everybody hated because he would be the size or 2 14 year old girls (in wheight) when hes only 13, and he realy smelled bad, so one day i had to sit beside him in math class so ofcore i'm not a stuck up person so i talked to him and i learned that he is the sweetest guy   its just his weights thats a problem to him

I learned that  if your fat or u have a big but or a big chest it doesen't matter aslong as you have a friend
poeple are different from eachother and you cant change them

MissSophie16 wrote:

Aneta123 wrote:

I wouldn't say that I'm fat (because I'm not) but i do have problems, its not about my fat its about my chest
I understand that people ave low self esteem because there fat but i have low self esteem bacause m chest is too big, even though i am not fat i feel like a fat person because of my chest, i get bullied because of, but i dont care its me and I'm it, i do not want to hang out with the cool people i wanne hang out with people who like me because of me not my chest (i found some friends okay)

I know this guy that everybody hated because he would be the size or 2 14 year old girls (in wheight) when hes only 13, and he realy smelled bad, so one day i had to sit beside him in math class so ofcore i'm not a stuck up person so i talked to him and i learned that he is the sweetest guy   its just his weights thats a problem to him

I learned that  if your fat or u have a big but or a big chest it doesen't matter aslong as you have a friend
poeple are different from eachother and you cant change them

Looks aren't everything!!!  I love my husband and he's overweight!!!  To me he's the most handsome guy in the world!  there's nobody else better for me...     

yeah thats exacly what i ment (but shorter form      i should have thought of that )

to me

no one is fat

i prefer saying that girl is not so thin, or something seeing as i'm fat myself